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Yikes! This is What a Kylie Jenner Lip Challenge Fail Looks Like Check out this thing you should never ever do — April 22, 2015

Yikes! This is What a Kylie Jenner Lip Challenge Fail Looks Like Check out this thing you should never ever do

  • We understand the appeal of having big, full lips like Kylie Jenner… but we’re not so sure about this #KylieJennerChallenge. Girls, please don’t hurt yourselves with shot glasses. Or, at the very least, make sure you catch it all on camera.

    One young lady did just that. And the results, well, they may just blow your mind.

  • For those not in the know, the #KylieJennerChallenge involves people — mostly young women — putting their lips in a small container, usually a shot glass. Keep your lips in their and suck all the air out to get bruised, swollen, painful lips. Sounds fun, right? The things some will do for fashion…

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Collapsed In Front Of Kim And Kanye And Their Faces Are Priceless! —

Collapsed In Front Of Kim And Kanye And Their Faces Are Priceless!

TIME 100’s gala on Tuesday night celebrated their annual list of most influential people in the world.

The red carpet was filled with celebs, including Kimye, who had the fright of their lives when comedian Amy Schumer took a nosedive right in front of them.

The red carpet was filled with celebs, including Kimye, who had the fright of their lives when comedian Amy Schumer took a nosedive right in front of them.

Don’t worry, Amy wasn’t really hurt. The Inside Amy Schumer star delivered an Oscar-winning fangirl performance as part of a prank.

Don't worry, Amy wasn't really hurt. The Inside Amy Schumer star delivered an Oscar-winning fangirl performance as part of a prank.
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The best part of the whole thing has to be the array of facial expressions:

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Enjoy this wonderful range of human emotion up close:

Should Smoking Around Kids Be Illegal? — March 30, 2015

Should Smoking Around Kids Be Illegal?

Growing up, my dad smoked, and so did nearly all of our family friends. It was the late 70s and early 80s. You could still smoke almost anywhere. When my parents hosted dinner parties, a thick smog of secondhand smoke would gather in the air over the table. Our car reeked of cigarettes. To this day, the smell of stale cigarette smoke makes me think of dozing off while my dad drove us home at night. It relaxes me, and makes me feel safe.

One thing I’m not nostalgic for, though, is the asthma I battled as a kid, or the chronic bronchitis I suffered every winter. Of course it never occurred to me as a child that my dad’s smoking might be to blame. As a teenager, a cyst on his throat scared him away from smoking. Years later, after a bout of walking pneumonia, my mom found cigarette smoke left her short of breath, and banned their friends from lighting up in the house.

In some states, it’s now illegal for parents to light up in cars the way my dad did. Other states have made it a crime for foster parents to smoke both in the car and in their homes. But one doctor recently suggested we need to go further. Adam Goldstein, an MD and professor in the Department Family Medicine at the University of North Carolina School of Medicine, argues that parents should not be allowed to smoke around children, period. And he’s calling on medical organizations to put pressure on legislators to label smoking a form of child abuse.

Goldstein says that we consider driving drunk with a kid in the car child abuse. So why shouldn’t we say the same about smoking? Kids who grow up in houses full of secondhand smoke, like I did, have asthma and respiratory problems, some of which, like pneumonia, require hospitalization.

I have a complicated response to this proposal. On the one hand, I know from experience how terrible it can be to grow up in a smoky house. To this day, I measure weak on lung capacity tests, despite being an avid runner in good shape. My dad’s smoking, which he began as a teen and didn’t stop till his early 40s, may have affected his long-term health. Did it take years off of my life too? And what about my mom, who now has similar issues with her respiratory health?

On the other hand, I bristle at the thought of calling my dad an abuser because he had an addiction to smoking. It was a different time. I honestly don’t think my dad would have kept smoking if he knew it was a major contributor to, if not the sole cause of, my asthma.

What’s more, I have trouble with the thought that the government can tell us what to do in our own homes. Today it’s cigarettes, what if tomorrow it’s soda and chips? Those cause diabetes. Should we ban parents from buying them too? We’re seeing all too clearly in Ferguson how race and class play a part in policing. I worry it would mostly be parents of color and parents living in poverty facing scrutiny over their smoking habits.

I am all in favor of replacing cigarette branding with messages and images about the damage that smoking does to our health. I love that New York City offers free resources to help people quit smoking, and wish that those were nationally available. And I think that public education should in particular target parents, so that they know the consequences of their actions on their children. Should smoking around a child in your own house be considered a crime, though, with potential court action and fines? That strikes me, a victim of secondhand smoke, as too extreme.

The 50 Shades of Grey In My Marriage — February 16, 2015

The 50 Shades of Grey In My Marriage

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Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy

Yeah, yeah I know we’ve all had it up to about HERE with the 50 Shades of Gray articles. I mean, really. As my editor cleverly said, which cracked me up: “50 Shades of WHO CARES.”

I certainly don’t care to see anyone’s scrawny butt on the big screen or the little screen, with out without whips and chains, and I certainly don’t have time to consider the deep sexual longings of anyone who uses the words “quivering” and “inner goddess” in the same sentence. Everyone’s got an opinion and frankly, I just don’t care. Get it on with your man (woman? Man/woman? Man who used to be a woman? Bruce Jenner?) how you want to and let’s all move on with our lives, OK?

Great. Glad we had this talk.

Now, what I do find intriguing about 50 Shades of Gray is the concept of what it means to look into that murky middle ground of relationships — to explore the in-between, the inner-workings of what makes two people tick. How there isn’t a right or wrong for any one couple, how we all develop our own secrets and safety nets within the freedom and restraints of marriage.

And it got me thinking about the “shades of gray” that exist in my own marriage — those little things that really don’t make sense to the rest of the world but keep our union trudging along, through light, darkness, and all the shades in between.

The way you can make me lunch on weekends when I’m working.

The way we can hang up the phones on each other, pissed beyond belief, and then two minutes later pretend that nothing happened.

The slow way I breathe to keep it together every time I see your belt in a random place around the house.

The way both of us pretend not to hear the baby when she wakes up at night.

The way both of us wait for the other to move when we can’t pretend not to hear her anymore.

The way one of us will murmur, “Oh, is she up?” when the other finally gives up and gets out of bed.

The way that you taught me what it means to actually fight like a grown-up.

The way you always bring home donuts on Saturday morning even though I insist I don’t want them.

The way I secretly love how you get embarrassed when you watch awkward scenes on TV. (The Bachelor, I’m looking at you.) 

How I have a love/hate relationship with the fact that you are an amazing cook.

The way that 12 years together has flashed by in an instant and we’re closing in on more life spent together than apart. 

The truth is, every marriage has its own shades of gray. I used to think that there were some sort of marriage rules that applied to those who become man and wife, a sort of “follow XYZ and you will have a long and successful marriage!” kind of thing.

Except — now I know that it definitely doesn’t work that way. All relationships have basic components that make up a solid foundation, I think — the basic things like kindness and laughter and concern for each other, but when it comes to the big stuff? Like religious beliefs and politics and red rooms and who does the cooking and the cleaning?

Well, there are a lot of gray areas there.

And sometimes, maybe what makes a marriage tick is best left behind closed doors anyways.

Working mothers risk damaging their child’s prospects — January 18, 2015

Working mothers risk damaging their child’s prospects

Mothers who return to work after their baby is born risk causing serious damage to the child’s prospects in later life, researchers revealed yesterday.
Such children are more likely to do worse at school, become unemployed and to suffer mental stress than youngsters whose mothers stay at home to bring them up.
The findings from the Institute for Social and Economic Research are a severe blow to the Government, which has used the tax and benefit system to encourage mothers to work while stripping away tax breaks such as the Married Couple’s Allowance.
They are an endorsement of the instincts of thousands of women who either give up work or drastically cut down their job commitments to devote most of their time to raising a young child.
According to the study, the impact of having a full-time working mother on a child’s education is similar to growing up in a single-parent family. If a mother returns to work, say the researchers, the child is 20 per-cent less likely to get an A-level.
They also reject the idea that a child is helped if the father stays at home, showing that his absence has little effect on the child’s educational success.
The research, published yesterday by the Joseph Rowntree Foundation, followed the lives of 1,263 young people across all social groups who were born in the 1970s.
Researchers attempted to allow for other factors such as income, the parents’ education and family break-up, and made comparisons of the performance of brothers and sisters.
It found that the children between one and five whose mothers worked for the longest periods tended to have lower educational attainment, greater risk of unemployment as a young adult, and a greater risk of psychological distress.
In only one field were the children better off than most others: Daughters of working mothers were less likely to become teenage mothers themselves.
The findings showed that the average mother during the 1970s and early 1980s worked for 18 months full-time before her child was five.
Nearly two thirds of their children, 64 per cent, achieved at least one A-level or equivalent qualification.
However, among mothers who worked for a longer period – 30 months and over before their child was five – only 52 per cent of the children achieved one A-level pass.
The likelihood of unemployment rose from seven to nine per cent for those whose mothers had worked full-time, and the chance of psychological stress went up from 23 per cent to 28 per cent.
Part-time work had much less damaging effects on children. The child’s chance of passing an A-level fell by six per cent, but there was no evidence of other harm.
Fathers who worked full-time had a similar impact on their children’s development to mothers who worked part-time. But their children were less likely than others to be unemployed later in life and less likely to show signs of mental distress.
Study author Professor John Ermisch said increases in family income were positive for children and could offset the damage of a full-time working mother.
But he added: ‘Unless it can be shown to produce substantial long-term gains, it might be better for policy makers to encourage part-time employment by one parent during a child’s pre-school years.
‘The large proportion of employed mothers with young children who are in part-time jobs is evidence that many mothers already prefer this option.’
Conservative social security spokesman David Willetts said: ‘This shows how wrong the Goverment is to bias the tax and benefits system in favour of two-earner couples and institutionalised child care.
‘We believe that parents with young children should be free to choose whether and when they return to work.’
Robert Whelan, of the Civitas think-tank, said: ‘This calls into question the whole policy
of encouraging women to go out to work and disadvantaging those who stay at home.
‘If you stay at home, everything in the tax and benefit system is ranged against you. The whole system should be reversed.’
But the Department for Education and Employment dismissed the findings, claiming that the development of childcare improves the educational chances of children of working mothers.
It said a study of more than 2,000 children had ‘shown that quality pre-school and child-care has a positive impact on children’s education’.
‘This report is based on children born 30 years ago when there was little quality child-care and nursery education.
‘This Government has changed that by creating the largest ever expansion of childcare,’ a spokesman said.
Meanwhile, a U.S. study has found that growing up in a clean home can boost youngsters’ exam grades and even the salaries they earn as adults.
The study of 3,400 volunteers over 25 years found that the length of time a child stayed in education and their future earnings was directly linked to the hygiene in their homes.
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Baby Bathing Tricks for National Bath —

Baby Bathing Tricks for National Bath

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Happy National Bath Safety Month! (Yep, that’s a thing.) We know that bathing baby is somewhat of an art form. How do you know if the water’s the right temperature? And how the heck do you get him to stop squirming? Here’s a step-by-step guide to safely giving baby a bath. We’ve even got a video for you. Eventually, bath time will be fun.

First, here’s what you’ll need:

Washing station
Whether you bathe baby in a sink lined with a soft surface or a plastic tub with a sling placed in the real bath, your setup should be steady and there shouldn’t be anything hard or sharp for baby to accidentally knock against. Position baby’s head away from the faucet (and use a soft faucet cover, if you have one).

Warm room
Keep the temperature raised so it’s not a shock to baby’s system when she comes out of the bath. Babies have a hard time regulating their core temperature, so they shouldn’t be chilled for too long.

Water
Fill the tub about three inches with water a little bit warmer than lukewarm. Submerge your entire hand and wrist to check the temperature. The water shouldn’t be running while baby is in the tub, because the depth could quickly become dangerous, or the water temperature could change and become too hot. (Tip: Turn your water heater down to 120 degrees to avoid accidental scalding.)

Plastic pitcher or cup
Use this to pour water over baby and rinse her off. (This is safer and less scary for babies than the gush of water coming from a faucet.) Or squeeze a washcloth soaked in water over baby’s head to rinse.

Soap
Though some moms prefer to use only water on their newborns, the sweat and dead skin that accumulate on baby can produce an odor that makes soap pretty welcome. Go easy on the amount, though, because too much can dry out baby’s skin. Look for a mild, tear-free cleanser that can be used for both baby’s body and hair. (Even tear-free soap should be kept away from baby’s eyes and face, though.) Some parents prefer all-natural baby wash, so that’s good too. Bottles that open with one hand or use a lockable pumping mechanism are best, because they allow you to keep that one necessary hand on baby at all times. If baby has a hard time with the washcloth, just put soap on your hands and clean him that way.

Washcloths
Designate a certain color or pattern used specifically for bath time — you wouldn’t want to confuse them with your diaper cloths!

Any special treatments
Diaper cream, cradle cap treatment, or any other remedies your doctor has recommended should be within reach.

Timing
Pay attention to baby’s mood after bath time, and use it to your advantage. If he’s energetic and ready to play, bathe during the day. If he seems more mellow, make it a pre-bedtime activity.

Now, the procedure:

Start by soaking baby a little. Always keep one hand on baby, and remember that infants are especially slippery when wet. If baby needs cradle cap treatment, put this on first, then come back to rinse after you’ve washed the rest of his body. Otherwise, start from the top and work your way down. Wash the face first, cleaning one area at a time — it can be scary for infants to have their entire face covered with a washcloth. As you move down the body, thoroughly wash inside all the folds (including under the arms, in the neck and the genital area). Sweat and skin can get stuck in those areas and fester, causing nasty rashes, so it’s important to keep them as clean and dry as possible. Save baby’s dirtiest parts (aka the diaper area) for last. Then, move back up and wash baby’s hair. Since infants lose most of their heat through their heads, this should be your very last move. If the water is still warm you can engage in a little playtime, but resist the urge to splash for too long — as the water chills, baby will quickly get cold.

There’s no need to bathe more than every few days. Since babies’ skin is so dry it can dehydrate quickly, so it’s actually best not to wash daily. Some parents even get by with as little as once a week. As one doctor put it, “When they start to smell funny, you know it’s time for a bath.”

Bath-side setup:

Towels
Keep a few towels on hand — one to carefully dry out all the little folds, and then another one fresh out of the dryer (but not too hot) to wrap baby up in. (Roll it up to keep in the warmth.) Hooded towels are also a good buy.

Clean diaper
Along with any other diapering supplies you need

Clean clothes

Blanket

Lotion
Some babies love lotion massages after bath time. Remember, though — flaking skin isn’t necessarily dry. Babies accumulate dead skin that needs to come off.

Hairbrush or comb
(For those babies blessed with tresses.)

Note: Until the cord stump falls off (about 7 to 9 days) and the circumcision is healed, baby should only have sponge baths. Wrap baby in a towel to keep him warm, then pull out one limb at a time to wash with a sponge and warm water. The cord stump can get infected, so it should always be kept clean and dry. If it seems dirty or sticky, wash it with soap and water and then dry well using a clean cloth.